Even after 2 years, I still go through spurts of thinking that maybe I didn't discipline enough he is the baby of the family, maybe I am just to dam old to be going through this again.
Then there was this past week. The beginning of kindergarten. It started out with dropping school supplies off a couple of days before hand so he could see where his classroom was. While walking down the hall he was flapping away like he was going to take flight. Well he thought his supplies were only his supplies and the thought of other children touching his supplies and breaking them was unacceptable. Those supplies were bought for him. I tried to reason with him, didn't work well at all.
Then the first day of school drop off went great, things looked good. 90 minutes into the first day I got a call. He had a melt down, bad bad one, the principal was involved. Not good, plus the principal made me feel like a horrible incompetent parent. Really I know his behavior is unacceptable, we told you all it would happen, you didn't believe me. Why, oh why would I make this stuff up. Well pick up went ok, G knew he was in deep for once he seemed to comprehend the fact that the world doesn't revolve around him.
The rest of the day he spent in and out of his room chilling, some times on his own accord, other times he was physically put there.
Day 2, take him in, we are allowed to walk him down to his room. He is now at his own table no distractions. He has his own supplies, (that I had in his back pack to make him feel better about the first set being given up.) under the pretense it is due to his contact reactive peanut allergy. He now has a behavior plan, a sensory seat, and chart to see his progress.
Better behavior, except he pushed another student, well no phone calls.
So now some classic symptoms are showing up with transitions and sensory issues. So yes he is autistic.
That sucks!! I am glad he had a better day afterwards though. Today we had a good day at school, but the bus times were fraught with meltdowns. He was a hot mess by the time he came home today. :( Here's hoping to better days for our little guys :(
ReplyDeleteI totaly understand what you mean. We received our diagnosis last april and we still struggle from time to time with saying no it can't be autism he's been autism for the last two weeks then we'll have a bad week with behaviors and stimming and yes he does indeed have autism. Disciplining an autisitic child in a typical way doesn't work. I'm sure this will only get harder as time goes on. Hopefully we can educate the teachers and the school system to adapt.
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